Postcards from the Funny Farm

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Okay, so here’s another brain stretching suggestion: not quite as out there as how roller-coasters are good for your grey matter but close. Today my wife drove my Jeep and I rode in the passenger seat … whoa, what a difference. Everything looked different, even the radio. It got me thinking about perceptions. It does a human mind good to have a paradigm shift like that once in a while. It makes you realize your reality is so very subjective.

You might try mixing something up this week, just for a hoot. As you try the change, don’t be surprised if it opens your mind to new ideas. This is the stuff that “breakthroughs” are made of and science calls it a “paradigm shift.” I call it the stuff dreams are made of.

One place I have experienced paradigm shifts in my teaching job more than anywhere else in life has been in my parent conferences. Sometimes you never understand the kid until you meet the parents. Sometimes that brings all the planets of understanding into alignment. Of course there are always anomalies.

Make a change in your routine and invite a paradigm shift, it’s guaranteed to open your mind further. Just by doing the smallest thing differently you become a bit more enlightened.

Some ideas to stimulate your thinking toward a paradigm shift this week:

1. Walk around the house naked (for me lately it would be a shift to walk around clothed, sorry to curse you with with such a visual)
2. Play a CD you dislike in your car.
3. Put the most important stuff at the bottom and the fun stuff at the top of your task list.
4. Try a new theme on your blog.
5. Eat healthy/non-healthy
6. Your own marvelous and creative ideas …

Our parents occupy a space in our psyches that determines so many of our thought patterns. It starts when we are very young babies and continues on until even after they pass away and we ourselves become the unique parents and grandparents. If we are fortunate, our parents are people we can and should trust as children and into adulthood. For me, and many I hope, our parents give us unconditional love that enables us to do the great things we dream of. You see that kind of love in church and on religious jewelry, but rarely do we run across it in life.

When we are kids, mom and dad’s discipline is usually dreaded. It makes us angry. They tell us to not run across wet tile and to make sure we wear a coat outside when it’s cold. We of course resent these demands as children and automatically assume our parents are ordering out out of spite, envy, or just plain meanness. The craziest thing is that when we slip on the floor after disobeying or when we catch a nasty could and cough for not heeding our parents’ commands, we still resent them. It flies in the face of reason but I see it often in my own son and I remember the same pattern happening when I was young. Now, at age 39, I find myself hungering for advice from my parents. They give it when I ask but it is not the same. It’s like an unwritten rule that when you do become an adult, you have to find your own way. DOH! Reality bites sometimes.

My friend Shelly wrote in a recent comment:

we don’t prepare for old age, because when we are young we think we are immortal.

This is so true. We see this in young men under 25 and the psychologists call it “young man’s syndrome.” It is near impossible for men in this age bracket to imagine their own death. So why does it come into clear focus later in life? What changes? Is there a certain quota of aches and pains that have to occur before we realize we are mortal? Maybe this syndrome is a survival mechanism. Maybe it once kept us at the top of the food chain before we became domesticated creatures. Whatever the reason for it, it shows a very important point:

Our brain has a lot to do with our notion of reality.

Phineas Gage, whose skull and brain injury is a pillar of brain study, emerged from his injury virtually unaffected. The thick metal rod shot directly through his cheek and up through his brain leaving fragments of of brain and bone on it yards away. Though everyone thought he would die, he lived another 15 years. His reason and inhibitions drastically changed in those 15 years, but he did indeed live.

I think we take for granted that our brain is like a knee or an elbow or any other external body part: It can get bruised, it can get scratched and upset. Birth defects are a given, but during our life, parts of our brain can be neglected, causing neuroses. It doesn’t have to be a metal rod through the skull to affect our brain chemistry. We tend to think that our brains are immortal. Just because they are there hidden and snug inside our skulls, we can trust they are feeding us a perception that is 100% “reality.” I challenge that common belief. I posit that for as many brains there are walking the Earth there are different notions of reality. We may share some of the basics, but after that brain chemistry differs and therefore so does perception.

So what does this mean to you? Do all you can to take care of your brain. The instrument is fine. The treasures you will find will be in your mind. If you are chronically upset, see a doctor. It could be a chemical problem. There are many out there untreated. Why suffer when drugs exist to bring you into balance? Short of drugs, make sure you eat right and get the vitamins you need. Sleep is also crucial to mental balance. The next time you think you are upset because of “real” things, remember that your imperfect and delicate brain interprets real. Until you’ve had the decent sleep, mediation, and diet, you should never assume that your brain is qualified to judge reality. Even then, it still can be wrong.

This blog is dedicated to addressing issues of inspiration and psychology in 2008. I hope you’ll be back as we explore more questions and issues in this niche.

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