Comments on: Toxic People http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/toxic-people-possibility-thinking-part-iii/ Thinking outside the box. Wondering at the world. Sat, 22 Nov 2008 00:48:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Have no Fear of Being Wrong http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/toxic-people-possibility-thinking-part-iii/#comment-4622 Have no Fear of Being Wrong Tue, 29 Jul 2008 05:33:25 +0000 http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/2007/09/20/toxic-people-possibility-thinking-part-iii#comment-4622 [...] Wrong Much? If you're new here, you may want to subscribe via -or- As I typed that title I caught myself for a millisecond thinking people might construe it to mean I have been wrong about something I have written on the blog. Naturally, I got defensive. Why do we as people fear being wrong so much? Maybe it goes back to our childhood when we would be sent to “remedial” classes to “remedy” us if we did poorly (wrongly) on tests. Nowadays the kids are almost 100% judged by their standardized test scores so they can probably relate. But as a whole I think you’ll agree that we as adults are very afraid of being wrong, it shows in our toxic words and actions. [...] [...] Wrong Much? If you’re new here, you may want to subscribe via -or- As I typed that title I caught myself for a millisecond thinking people might construe it to mean I have been wrong about something I have written on the blog. Naturally, I got defensive. Why do we as people fear being wrong so much? Maybe it goes back to our childhood when we would be sent to “remedial” classes to “remedy” us if we did poorly (wrongly) on tests. Nowadays the kids are almost 100% judged by their standardized test scores so they can probably relate. But as a whole I think you’ll agree that we as adults are very afraid of being wrong, it shows in our toxic words and actions. [...]

]]> By: Marcia http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/toxic-people-possibility-thinking-part-iii/#comment-1219 Marcia Tue, 15 Apr 2008 16:14:48 +0000 http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/2007/09/20/toxic-people-possibility-thinking-part-iii#comment-1219 I think of it much as Jessica does, "consider the source". I have been known to say simply, "thank you for your advice," or to argue the point. Damien, I do like your, "That's one way to look at it." I would probably add, ",isn't it?" to that, though - in hopes they would stop there. I think I will adopt that when my simple, "thank you for your advice" doesn't quell them. <em>Marcia's last blog post..<a href='http://tumbledwords.com/2008/04/14/hodge-podge/' rel="nofollow">Hodge Podge</a></em> I think of it much as Jessica does, “consider the source”. I have been known to say simply, “thank you for your advice,” or to argue the point.

Damien, I do like your, “That’s one way to look at it.” I would probably add, “,isn’t it?” to that, though - in hopes they would stop there. I think I will adopt that when my simple, “thank you for your advice” doesn’t quell them.

Marcia’s last blog post..Hodge Podge

]]> By: Damien Riley http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/toxic-people-possibility-thinking-part-iii/#comment-1221 Damien Riley Fri, 21 Sep 2007 02:48:25 +0000 http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/2007/09/20/toxic-people-possibility-thinking-part-iii#comment-1221 That's THE way to look at it ;) I really like your "consider the source" perspective. Thanks for that comment. I'm thinking of so many possibilities these days, gotta use it while it's here ya know? ;) Let us know how the possibility thinking goes for you with your toxic people. That’s THE way to look at it ;) I really like your “consider the source” perspective. Thanks for that comment. I’m thinking of so many possibilities these days, gotta use it while it’s here ya know? ;) Let us know how the possibility thinking goes for you with your toxic people.

]]> By: The Rock Chick http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/toxic-people-possibility-thinking-part-iii/#comment-1220 The Rock Chick Fri, 21 Sep 2007 01:44:42 +0000 http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/2007/09/20/toxic-people-possibility-thinking-part-iii#comment-1220 Damien, I am totally enjoying this Possibility Thinking series you've got going here. 90% of the time I'm an optimist, but once in a while I think I do succumb to the "toxic people". I prefer the term "emotional vampires", but....same difference! I've always tried to follow a "consider the source" when people try to tell me something or offer unwated advice. It works for the most part with the personality conflicts I have with my dreaded coworker, Goonan, but sometimes he does get to me. I'm going to try your idea and see how it goes!! Jessica Damien, I am totally enjoying this Possibility Thinking series you’ve got going here. 90% of the time I’m an optimist, but once in a while I think I do succumb to the “toxic people”. I prefer the term “emotional vampires”, but….same difference!

I’ve always tried to follow a “consider the source” when people try to tell me something or offer unwated advice. It works for the most part with the personality conflicts I have with my dreaded coworker, Goonan, but sometimes he does get to me. I’m going to try your idea and see how it goes!!

Jessica

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